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The Pieces of My Shattered Heart- Guest Blogger

The pieces of my shattered heart are lying in the sun.

Warming to the hopeful chance of finding love again.

Convalescing.

Recharging.

Rejuvenating.

 

Knowing there’s an arrow poised to pierce this heart of mine.

Bursting with a renewed purpose, splendid and divine.

Bountiful.

Exquisite.

Prolific.

40 Days of Giving

40 Days of Giving

 

 2014 is my 40th celebration of life and I am living it up 40 style.  It started with reading the “Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren for forty days followed by 40 days of  Giving and  a plan of 40 Half Marathons throughout the year.  I will finish “Purpose Driven Life” on February 9 and will begin the 40 Days of Giving on February 10 to March 21.  I am excited about the 40 Days of Giving because it will be during Valentine’s Day and my birthday month which is my favorite time of the year.

I am choosing 40 people who make an impact in my daily life and carefully creating small, special gifts to bless each person with during the 40 days of giving. It is going to be difficult to narrow it down to 40 because I love to give. Ideas of people to include in the 40 people are family, friends, my son’s teachers, mail carrier, service providers, fireman, policemen, pastor, and/ or strangers as a pay it forward gesture of kindness.   I am searching Pinterest for unique, affordable gift ideas, gift cards, unique gifts while out shopping.  I also have a Google form of favorite things that will help me with favorite colors, snacks, and such.

I am excited to give 40 gifts to 40 people in 40 days.  I know it is going to take planning and work to put it all together, but I know it will be worth it.  My love language  (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/) is gifts and I know not all people love gifts the way I do, but I will enjoy giving. I will update you on the 40 Days of Giving when it takes place.

Today, I challenge you to take a day during February 10 to March 21 to give a gift to someone who impacts your daily life and share with me.

40 Days of Giving

Harmony replaces balance

Harmony replaces balance

According to http://www.thefreedictionary.com/harmony , Harmony is  “a pleasing combination of elements in a whole.”  Often times, I struggle to find “balance” in my life.  Have you heard of the analogy “balancing plates.”  My life would consist of finding balance in our schedules, balanced diet, balancing the checkbook, balance budget, balanced home, balanced cars, balanced tires, balanced washer, balanced laundry, and so on with the balanced.

Harmony replaces  balance

I came to the conclusion that balance wasn’t achievable and realized that my target was to find “harmony.”  I have learned to accept my life with the ebb and flow.  I have two teenage boys with busy schedules.  I teach 7th grade advanced math.  I have a nutritional direct sales business .  I run marathons. I also manage the daily life duties of a home , two dogs, and two automobiles.  Not to mention my social life and from time to time, I try that dating thing.

BALANCE 

HARMONY

I accept things as they are and do not stress over what I cannot change.

I accept my boys for who they are and not what I think they should be.

I continuously have a grateful heart and give thanks.

I find good in all people.

I find the good in all situations.

I know there are going to be challenges and surprises.

I don’t stress the small stuff, but there are times I do stress… it is about harmony.

I know a perfectly clean house and a manicured yard are not in my cards as long as I am managing it all on my own.

I know my budget is strictly harmonious… I feed two teenage boys on a teacher’s salary!! God is good!

I know not all things are going to balance day after day; therefore, I focus on finding harmony in the situation knowing sometimes it will workout and sometimes it won’t.  The harmony in it is finding beauty in life.

Harmony replaces balance.

What can you do to find harmony in your life?

 

 

 

RED FLAGS: Signs to look for in an abusive personality

RED FLAGS
Signs to look for in an abusive personality:

Jealousy:

At the beginning of a relationship, an abuser will always say that his jealousy is a sign of love. Jealousy has nothing to do with love; it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness. He will question you about whom you talk to, accuse you of flirting, or be jealous of time you spend with family, friends, or children. As the jealousy progresses, he may call you frequently during the day or drop by unexpectedly. He may give you a hard time for being involved in activities or work for fear that you will meet someone else. He may even ask friends to watch you.

Controlling Behaviors:

At first, the batterer will say that this behavior is because he is concerned for your safety, your need to use your time well, or your need to make good decisions. He will be angry if you are “late” to meet him after a trip to the store or an appointment. If you cannot see him when he wants, he may question you closely about who you will be with or your plans. As this behavior gets worse, he may try to interfere with your right to make personal decisions about work, school, clothing or going to church. He may act like he wants to own you.

Quick Involvement:

Many women dated or knew the man who abused them for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. He comes on like a whirl-wind – “you’re the only person I could ever talk to,” “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.” He needs someone desperately, and will pressure you to commit to him.

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde:
Many women are confused by the abuser’s “sudden” changes in mood-they will describe that one minute he is nice and the next minute he explodes as though he has some special “mental problem” or like he is “crazy.” Mood swings are typical of men who beat their partners, and they are just another way to take control and manipulate a person. These behaviors are related to other characteristics such as hypersensitivity.

Past Battering:

The man may say he has hit girlfriends in the past, but they made him do it. You may hear from the relatives that the man is abusive. A batterer will beat any woman he is with: situational circumstances do not make an abusive personality.

Threats of Violence:
This would include any threat of physical force meant to control you. He may say things such as: “I’ll slap your mouth off,” “I’ll kill you, “or “I’ll break your neck.” Most men do not threaten their mates, but a batterer will try to excuse this behavior by saying, “Everybody talks like that.”

Unrealistic Expectations:

He will be very dependent on you for all of his needs; he expects you to be the perfect girlfriend, mother, lover, and friend. He will say things like, “If you love me, I’m all you need-you’re all I need.” You are supposed to take care of everything for him emotionally and meet all of his needs.

Isolation:

The abuser will try to cut you off from all resources. If you have male friends, you are a slut. If you have girlfriends, you are accused, disparagingly, of being a lesbian. If you are close to family, you are “tied to the apron strings.” He accuses people who are part of your support system of “causing trouble.” He may try to keep you from working or being involved in social, church, family, school or other activities that do not revolve around him.

Blames Others for His Problems:
If he does poorly in school or is chronically unemployed, someone is always doing him wrong or is out to get him. He may make mistakes and then blame you for upsetting him and keeping him from concentrating on doing his job. He will tell you that you are at fault for almost anything that goes wrong.

Playful Use of Force During Sex:
The man may like to throw you down and hold you during sex. He may want to act out fantasies during sex where you are helpless. He is letting you know that the idea of “rape” excites him. He may show little concern about whether you want to have sex and sulk or use anger to manipulate you into compliance. He may start having sex with you while you are sleeping, or demand sex when you are ill or tired.

Verbal Abuse:
In addition to saying things that are meant to be cruel and hurtful, he may curse you or put down any of your accomplishments. The man will tell you that you are stupid and unable to function without him He may disrupt your sleep to verbally abuse you or he may not let you sleep. He rarely calls you by your own name, preferring instead to use such terms as bitch, whore, slut, fatso or stupid to address you.

Rigid Sex Roles:
The abuser expects you to serve him. He may say you must meet his needs, that you must obey him in all things-even things that are criminal in nature. The abuser will see women as inferior to men, more stupid, and unable to be a whole person without a relationship.

Blames Others for his feelings:
He will say “You make me mad,” “You’re hurting me by not doing what I ask,” “I can’t help being angry.” He really makes the decision about what he thinks and feels, but will use feelings to manipulate you. Harder to catch are his claims that “You make me happy,” “You control how I feel.”

Hypersensitivity:

The abuser is easily insulted; he claims his feelings are “hurt” when he is really very mad, or he takes the slightest setbacks as personal attacks. He will “rant and rave” about the injustice of things that have happened to him-things that are really just part of living-like getting a traffic ticket, being told that something he does is annoying or being asked to help with chores.

Cruelty to Animals or Children:
This is a person who punishes animals brutally or is insensitive to their pain or suffering. He may expect children to be capable of doing things far beyond their ability (whips a two year old for wetting his/her diaper) or he may tease children or young brothers or sisters until the cry (60 percent of men who beat the women they are with also beat their children).

Breaking or Striking Objects:

This behavior is used as a punishment (breaking loved possessions), but is mostly used to terrorize you into submission. The man may beat on tables with his fist; throw objects around or near you. Only very immature people beat on objects in the presence of other people in order to threaten them. He may say, “See, I hit the rear view mirror, not you, I don’t want to hurt you.” Don’t be fooled – it is an implied threat.

Any Force During an Argument:

This may involve him holding you down, physically restraining you from leaving the room, as well as pushing or shoving you. Example: The man may hold you against a wall and say, “You’re going to listen to me.”

Are you in an Abusive Relationship?

Takes this quiz.

If you answer yes to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.

Does your partner:

Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?

Look at you or act in ways that scare you?

Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?

Stop you from seeing or talking to friends and family?

Act like hitting you is no big deal, it’s your fault, or denies it happened?

Destroy your property?

Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?

Shove you, slap you, or hit you?

Threaten to kill you?

 

If you feel your life is in danger, call 911.

First Light Half Marathon Mobile, AL

First Light Half Marathon Mobile, AL

On Sunday, Januray 12, 2014, I ran the First Light Half Marathon Mobile, AL in a 2 day 2 state 2 half marathon challenge. This was my second half marathon in 2014 and  2nd in the forty 4 forty goal. It was one of my favorite races for many reasons. The marathon benefited L’Arche.  L’Arche is an international federation of  communities in which people with intellectual disabilities and those who help them can live, work, and share their lives together.

We arrived into Mobile, AL  on Saturday after completing a half marathon in Jackson, MS, picked up our packets, and checked into the hotel. The Expo was small, but the people at packet pickup were friendly.  The race provided dinner for the runners the night before and food after the race.

20140115-225942.jpgI received a nice bag and shirt for the First Light Half Marathon Mobile, AL.  For completing the Mississippi Blues Jackson, MS and First Light Half Marathon Mobile, AL Challenge, I received a B2B challenge shirt and a hand painted canvas from a member of L’Arche.

20140115-230142.jpgThe medal was also hand painted with a hand tied ribbon from a member at L’Arche.

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The First Light Half Marathon Mobile, AL course was flat and beautiful.  We ran through beautiful neighborhood adorned with southern charm.  The volunteers were friendly and a couple of the water stations were themed. One was themed with the Red Hat Society and another had a Mardi Gras theme.

As I was approaching the finish line, I heard a horn honking and a motorcycle approaching.  I turned around to see the winner of the full marathon approaching me and he passed me.  He completed a full in the amount of time I ran a half marathon ( I did lose 5 minutes for a bathroom break).  He ran 6 minute miles for 26.2 miles.  Absolutely AMAZING!!

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The 10 hour drive home after the race was tough, but worth it.  It was most definitely an amazing weekend and I would do it again.  I thought running back to back half marathons was going to be tough, but I felt fine.  I did have a huge blister on my toe, but I will survive.

#3 of 40 will be Saturday The Duel  in Wichita Falls.

 

 

 

 

Reflections of Cinderella Dreams

Reflections of Cinderella Dreams

Reflections of Cinderella Dreams

  • Reflection … pray, plan, and obey…

Reflection the story of Ester who went from an orphan to a queen; your Cinderella dream is in your hands. It is your choice to live it in the pre- prince sage or the post-prince stage.

You are unique through God’s love!

 

  • Your daily actions and choices determine your future destination. Seek God’s guidance in all of your decisions and daily activities. Devote time each day to prayer and your Bible.

Delight yourself in the LORD; and He will give you the desires or your hears Psalms 37:4

 

  • Do you have goals?

God has you at this place to fulfill your purpose in life. No one is going to complete you or change your life. Submitting to God’s will for your life can change you, but it is your choice to submit.

Where there is on vision, the people perish, but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. Proverbs 29:18

 

  • What is your self-talk? Practice positive affirmations and replace the negative tapes playing in your head. You are beautiful as God’s daughter.

Affirmations are based on thoughts;thoughts precede actions.   Taking a quote from the bible, “As a man thinketh, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7.

If something happens to make you happy it registers in your mind which can spread over your body in a positive way. However it all starts in your mind.

 

  • Are you surrounded by noblemen or step-sisters? Are you five closest friends encouraging or holding you back from your God given purpose? Do their actions reflect their words which reflect the fruit in their lives?

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23

 

Reflections of Cinderella Dreams written by Christi Lyn to inspire others to have Cinderella dreams.

 

Contagious Comeback

It is the year of the Contagious Comeback!

Contagious Comeback

Do you feel like you have had multiple setbacks holding you back?  Are you ready to breakthrough and feel powerful again?  Declare it your year with these 4 statements!

 

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart. Hebrews 12:1-3

 

It is a process as we walk through things on our journey.

 

Declare every morning!

 

1. I will hope!

2. I will pray!

3. I will believe!

4. I will endure!

 

It is the year of the CONTAGIOUS COMEBACK!!

I believe in you and know you abundance awaits you– CLAIM it!

Weekend Workout#1

Weekend Workout #1

Weekend Workout #1

Workout can be done anywhere without any equipment!

First week of the month

 

Saturday Work out 
Warm-Up 3 to 5 minutes
Stretch 3 to 5 minutes
Workout:
10 squat jumps
20 jumping lunges
10 push ups
10 frog leaps
10 plank rows
20 mountain climbers
10 push ups
20 calf push ups
(repeat)
20 crunches
20 side crunches (alternating)
20 reverse crunches
(repeat 2 times)
Sunday Workout 
Warm-Up 3 to 5 minutes
Stretch 3 to 5 minutes
Workout:
Interval Training (30 seconds/ 10 seconds)
Burpees
Side lunges
Scissors
High Knees
Plank Side Jump
Reptile
Wall Sits
Push Ups
Rest for 1 minute
Repeat